On another shitty note....
I have been saving all my R5 coins in my pretty pink money box. I have been saving them for QTs present as I want to buy him a Ferrari toiletry bag which costs R495!
It is his 1st birthday since we have been together and he spoilt me so much for my birthday. It is definitely the thought that counts - but I want to get him something truly special for our 1st birthday together.
The piggy sits on a stand that is near a window that I leave open for my cats. (I have learnt my lesson not to be so stupid again)
I live in a garden cottage and have never once considered that I have anything to worry about - until today.
I put a R5 coin in tonight and it sounded empty - thats because it was!!
R145 has been stolen out of it!!
I am so emotional about it because I really am struggling with my debt and I have been saving every coin I get to put in there for QTs present and now I only have R45 left :-(
When you are counting every cent you spend and have a daily budget of R30 for breakfast, lunch and dinner, then R145 really is a lot of money.
Does anyone know where I could get an original Ferrari toiletry bag for cheaper?
Perhaps I should start a QT present fund? The QTPF
Picture this as a Verimark/Glomail/Homemark ad:
Flirty is crazy about her boyfriend and wants to make his birthday truly special, because everybody deserves the best on their birthday.
Giving makes us feel good, so why not make your day a good day? A great day?
Donate to the QTPF now and feel the glow of selflessness settle upon you.
Deposits can be made via internet transfer or direct deposits....
BUT WAIT!! THAT'S NOT ALL!
Make payment of R50 or more and you will receive an original handwritten thank you note by Flirty - scented with Princess perfume!
Dont delay - donate today!
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Yes I do seem to have lost my mind... I am have been robbed and cheated out of a job today - do you blame me?
Saturday 17 July 2010
Serious Help needed
I need serious advice...and fast!
Warning - this is an eeexxxtttrrraaaa long entry, settle in and get comfortable.
I found out today that the Marketing Manager position that I was promised by the MD last year September has now been offered to someone else.
I am flabbergasted!!!
I was employed as a PA and fell into the Marketing aspect purely by chance.
To skip the story scroll down to ********************
One day I looked at our Quarterly brochure that comes out and it was so boring I kind of pulled a face which my boss - the Sales Director - saw. He asked my opinion and I told him it was boring. He offered me a chance to give a few suggestions at the next marketing meeting and after that the Equipment catalogue was given to me to design and I have been doing it for about a year now. I told our CEO that I wanted to ultimately end up in Marketing, he had a word with the MD and the MD said that I must just be patient and come Aug/Sept I will be promoted because the current Marketing Manager will be retiring. I have worked after hours on the catalogues, I have planned events that have been extremely successful resulting in increased sales of our launched products and I am complimented all the time on my marketing abilities. So I waited patiently and promised myself through all these hard times that soon I will be promoted and doing what I love.
*********************************
Today my boss tells me that 1 of our sales reps has been offered the position.
Some background history:
This is all bull as he told me on 2 seperate occassions to be patient and he told me that I would have to learn the consumable side of the business and the current lady could give me training but not while I was a PA, we would have to wait until the time was right and find my boss a replacement PA.
My boss spoke to me and said I need to state my case and tell them I want an increase in my salary if I cant have the managerial position. The MD siad he would look at it because I am doing a brilliant job on the equipment catalogues and the event planning and I am the best PA my boss has ever had and they can't afford to let me go as PA.
Driving home I realised that was all just a way to placate me and try make me back down by playing on my sense of loyalty to my boss.
I have to present my case on Monday and I am actually not happy that I was promised then overlooked.
I was not even given the opportunity to apply for the position or state my reasons for wanting the position - what do they think I have been working my butt off for for the last year?
I dont get paid overtime and I have done all this work because it was all in preparation for when I took over as manager.
If they increase my salary but keep my function the same then all that allows them to do is increase my work load and when I crack from the stress they can say: See, she would never have cracked it as a manager.
And why let them get away with giving my position to somebody else? This is my future we are talking about. I want the Marketing position - I dont want any other position in the company. So if she gets the position, she is young - I will not have a chance to grow and I might as well start looking for another job.
A manager is a better position and will look good on my cv rather than a PA who helped out in Marketing, that is too vague and doesnt reflect what I truly did.
Problem to consider: The job was not advertised internally, but they can always advertise the position and make a show of interviewing me to do the right thing, but stick to her and promote her. There are 3 directors and my director would lose against the other 2 as the MD has already made up his mind and the 3rd director goes with whatever the MD decides.
But how can they now give me the position when they have also promised her - then they are in the same boat with her being upset and sitting in the position I am in now.
I could suggest that they split the position into 2 managerial positions - Equipment and Consumable, that way her and I could work in conjunction together. But it would mean an extra salary for the company which I doubt they will go for.
This has been an extremely tough week and I have said to my friends that I am not sure I can last in the company for another 6 months as I do not enjoy being a PA anymore. It was a great challenge to move from running an optometry practise for 9 years to becoming an executive PA to a sales director. I now know I am more than capable and I have found my true niche - design and event planning.
I did some praying and decided that I needed to make a big change in my life in order to be happy again.
Concurrently my lease is about to expire and I really dont enjoy loving where I do (that is a long story I wont even bore you with - but trust me, I may sound like a miserable and unhappy girl -but I really am not that bad!)
I asked to extend the lease a further 6 months and the landlord disagreed saying they wanted a 1 year lease.
I was about to back down but said no. They have now agreed to a 6 month lease - which is all just as well, who knows whether I will still be at the same company in 6 months time, perhaps I might have to find another job and might have to move.
I believe that everything happens for a reason and perhaps this has happened to either make me realise that I need to fight for what I want and have more faith in my abilities and my worth to the company or that it is time to move on.
If I do not get this position then I will bide my time for another 6 months so that I can get my 13th cheque at the end of the year and then I will move on.
Being a PA has been soul destroying lately and I am on the verge of a breakdown, this has made it so sclear to me that I need to go after what I want and keep pushing until I get there.
But what is your opinion please: Do I demand the position or do I take a salary increase and remain a PA or do I suggest a dual manager position?
Warning - this is an eeexxxtttrrraaaa long entry, settle in and get comfortable.
I found out today that the Marketing Manager position that I was promised by the MD last year September has now been offered to someone else.
I am flabbergasted!!!
I was employed as a PA and fell into the Marketing aspect purely by chance.
To skip the story scroll down to ********************
One day I looked at our Quarterly brochure that comes out and it was so boring I kind of pulled a face which my boss - the Sales Director - saw. He asked my opinion and I told him it was boring. He offered me a chance to give a few suggestions at the next marketing meeting and after that the Equipment catalogue was given to me to design and I have been doing it for about a year now. I told our CEO that I wanted to ultimately end up in Marketing, he had a word with the MD and the MD said that I must just be patient and come Aug/Sept I will be promoted because the current Marketing Manager will be retiring. I have worked after hours on the catalogues, I have planned events that have been extremely successful resulting in increased sales of our launched products and I am complimented all the time on my marketing abilities. So I waited patiently and promised myself through all these hard times that soon I will be promoted and doing what I love.
*********************************
Today my boss tells me that 1 of our sales reps has been offered the position.
Some background history:
- This rep has been there about a year - I have been there for 2 years
- She has no experience in marketing, I have been doing catalogues and events for a year
- I am 31, she is 26
This is all bull as he told me on 2 seperate occassions to be patient and he told me that I would have to learn the consumable side of the business and the current lady could give me training but not while I was a PA, we would have to wait until the time was right and find my boss a replacement PA.
My boss spoke to me and said I need to state my case and tell them I want an increase in my salary if I cant have the managerial position. The MD siad he would look at it because I am doing a brilliant job on the equipment catalogues and the event planning and I am the best PA my boss has ever had and they can't afford to let me go as PA.
Driving home I realised that was all just a way to placate me and try make me back down by playing on my sense of loyalty to my boss.
I have to present my case on Monday and I am actually not happy that I was promised then overlooked.
I was not even given the opportunity to apply for the position or state my reasons for wanting the position - what do they think I have been working my butt off for for the last year?
I dont get paid overtime and I have done all this work because it was all in preparation for when I took over as manager.
If they increase my salary but keep my function the same then all that allows them to do is increase my work load and when I crack from the stress they can say: See, she would never have cracked it as a manager.
And why let them get away with giving my position to somebody else? This is my future we are talking about. I want the Marketing position - I dont want any other position in the company. So if she gets the position, she is young - I will not have a chance to grow and I might as well start looking for another job.
A manager is a better position and will look good on my cv rather than a PA who helped out in Marketing, that is too vague and doesnt reflect what I truly did.
Problem to consider: The job was not advertised internally, but they can always advertise the position and make a show of interviewing me to do the right thing, but stick to her and promote her. There are 3 directors and my director would lose against the other 2 as the MD has already made up his mind and the 3rd director goes with whatever the MD decides.
But how can they now give me the position when they have also promised her - then they are in the same boat with her being upset and sitting in the position I am in now.
I could suggest that they split the position into 2 managerial positions - Equipment and Consumable, that way her and I could work in conjunction together. But it would mean an extra salary for the company which I doubt they will go for.
This has been an extremely tough week and I have said to my friends that I am not sure I can last in the company for another 6 months as I do not enjoy being a PA anymore. It was a great challenge to move from running an optometry practise for 9 years to becoming an executive PA to a sales director. I now know I am more than capable and I have found my true niche - design and event planning.
I did some praying and decided that I needed to make a big change in my life in order to be happy again.
Concurrently my lease is about to expire and I really dont enjoy loving where I do (that is a long story I wont even bore you with - but trust me, I may sound like a miserable and unhappy girl -but I really am not that bad!)
I asked to extend the lease a further 6 months and the landlord disagreed saying they wanted a 1 year lease.
I was about to back down but said no. They have now agreed to a 6 month lease - which is all just as well, who knows whether I will still be at the same company in 6 months time, perhaps I might have to find another job and might have to move.
I believe that everything happens for a reason and perhaps this has happened to either make me realise that I need to fight for what I want and have more faith in my abilities and my worth to the company or that it is time to move on.
If I do not get this position then I will bide my time for another 6 months so that I can get my 13th cheque at the end of the year and then I will move on.
Being a PA has been soul destroying lately and I am on the verge of a breakdown, this has made it so sclear to me that I need to go after what I want and keep pushing until I get there.
But what is your opinion please: Do I demand the position or do I take a salary increase and remain a PA or do I suggest a dual manager position?
Thursday 15 July 2010
Some random catch up
Taking a break from my photo challenges - it has been a while since I wrote on here & I am feeling the need for a bit of blog-therapy.
Let me fill you in on what has been happening:
QT told me he loved me! (It still gives me thrills when he says it)
I cannot believe that he and I are still together. He makes me so happy and I still cant believe that I am so comfortable with him.
I love that I can be myself with him.
I love him
Let me fill you in on what has been happening:
- I have finally taken my head out of the sand and realised that I need to get myself out of my ever increasing debt. Whatever happened to the financially responsible Flirty I once knew? I have now drawn up a budget but finding it very hard to stick to with so many unforseen expenses, and having a boyfriend who spoils me is not easy as I do feel the need to reciprocate every now and then.
- In the interest (excuse the pun) of lowering my debt I have downgraded my cellphone account - I gave up the chance to own a beautiful Blackberry Storm 2 opting instead for a cheaper package and received a stunning Pearly White 8520. I am loving my little phone and all I compromised on was the quality of the camera - my Samsung G800 had a 5mp camera, BB has a 2mp and no flash, but considering I carry my Sony with me everywhere anyway I should be fine.
- I have been having a blast withthe photo challenge and I absolutely love everyones take on the challenges - we need more of these types of challenges; photos, quizzes etc, for example: Random Fun fact days: Day 1: A memory from when you were 5. Day 2: If you could be a Disney Princess who would you be? etc etc etc Does anyone have more of these challenges out there?
- I watched Eclipse - oh man I loved it!! I love that Edward smiles more and Bella is not as jerky and stilted as she was in the past. I love that Jacob runs around with no shirt on - one of my favourite lines: "Don't you on a shirt?" Edward to Jacob. The tent scene was awesome, I loved the softer side of Edward and a glimpse into his love for Bella
- On a funny note, an email went around (I am sure you have seen it) where you take different aspects of your name and get silly things like your Gangsta name, your Soap Opera name and your Stripper name. Here are a few really funny results from my friends:
- Troy van der Merwe (she wont make it)
- Troy Muir
- Mickey Boshoff
- Tiger Easton - Mine!
- my all time favourite.... Droopy Swanepoel (she will never make it!!!)
- Kidney stones are so not fun - I was very sick not so long ago, but have kept a fragmant of the stone as a reminder to drink more water - it isnt helping though - I HATE water!
- Tee and her
assholeboyfriend are moving in together soon - he has already moved into the house and has now decided she shouldn't move in until the end of August - so they had a fight about it and now they are "taking a break" - I am not sure if I am cut out to be a PA any longer - my boss takes advantage of me and I have way too much work and I am scared that I am actually going to have a mental breakdown
QT told me he loved me! (It still gives me thrills when he says it)
I cannot believe that he and I are still together. He makes me so happy and I still cant believe that I am so comfortable with him.
I love that I can be myself with him.
I love him
Tuesday 13 July 2010
Photo Challenge # 15: A picture that you edited
This photo is of my all time favourite - Johan Vorster from Eden.
Talented singer, truly gifted songwriter
I used my Sony Digital camera's function to "monochrome" the picture (choose a portion of the photo and make it black & white)
It gives an added depth to the photo
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