When I was a little girl, my mom and I used to fight All. The. Time
My mom is cheeky, speaks her mind and is not afraid of what other people think and is more than happy to defend herself or others in a fight.
I was cheeky and spoke my mind. I received so many hidings for talking back or doing something I was explicitly told not to do.
As I got older, we fought over everything and I think it was because we were so alike in so many ways it was purely a personality clash.
i asked my mom how on earth she put up with it. She told me that a mother needs to give her child room to grow and develop a personality.you have to accept them and guide them. Very wise words mom.
I see so many of my personality traits which stem from my mom. I am sure we all do.
Does that mean we have to accept the bad ones?
I see character traits in people around me that are directly a result of their upbringing. It's scary because these people complain about their parent being bossy, or arrogant or unreasonable and yet they are exactly the same way.
Is it inevitable that we will all become our parents? Do we have a chance to salvage the good and discard the bad?
Perhaps if everybody just took a good long look at themselves and we're brutally honest about their shortcomings, the world would indeed be a more considerate place.
Some lessons I have learnt along the way:
It's not important to always be right.
You shouldn't force your opinion onto others- wait to be asked.
Drop that condescending tone. It's annoying and one day I will stop ignoring it and actually say something in anger - which I will never be able to retract.
