When friends make mistakes

What do you do when your friend is making a heinous mistake and you just know that she is going to get hurt and make her life very complicated.
Tee dated an absolute loser at the beginning of the year - he suddenly broke up with her without an explanation.
A few months later he tells her is a recovering alcoholic (meanwhile he drinks her wine at the table and rocked up at her house rip roaring drunk)
They have been seeing each other again and they still fight over stupid things.

Yesterday she drops the bombshell that they are buying a house together and moving in together in August - they are back together.
(lift jaw off floor)
WTF???
Is she crazy?

Why on earth BUY a house with anstable person who has a very bad trackrecord in his treatment of you?

I gave her the self respect speech and I have told her she is making a mistake and she should think this through very carefully.

What else can I do??

What happened to MC?

We still talk on the phone & he is still 1 of the best listeners I know.

Recently I had to make a big decision because I was seeing QT and I was chatting to MC every night & it was giving me sleepless nights... until the both discovered this Blog.

I must admit that the relief was huge!

Both men handled the situation so well - atesting to the fact that they are both indeed fine, upstanding men that I am very fortunate to have in my life.

I decided to give it a proper go with QT and MC and I had a chat about it.

MC is not in the right place and he needs time to get over his break up without pressure from me. When he is over it, we go from there (of course this is all dependent on where QT and I are at that stage)

My 1 real dilemma lies in the fact that realistically QT and I dont have a future together... yet I LOVE being with him and he makes me so incredibly happy!

Why would I want that to end?

So MC invited me to go and visit him in his new place over his birthday.

Obviosuly I want to go and see him - but I cannot possibly put QT in a situation like that.

If the roles were reversed I am sure MC would not like me doing that to him.

QT and I are planning to go to Ballito over my birthday and I want to visit MC while we are there.

MC and QT are friends and I dont want to stand in the way of that and also MC has had a tough time lately.

I think he needs the company and it will do him good to have some friends around as well.

I promised him that as a friend I would always be there, and I dont intend to break that promise - especially now when I get the feeling that he needs a friend. 

This will make you go "Aaah..."

Some smses I've recently received from QT - these are too special not to share:

24 April:

Hey my Princess! Ur so amazing! I just wanted u 2 kno:)

26 April:

U take my breathe away. How do u do it. ur just the best lady any guy could ask 4

27 April:

Someone asked me to describe u in 2 words, they expected me to reply "The Best" but I just smiled and said "Nothing Compares..."

Now tell me I am not the luckiest woman in the whole wide world to have this man all for myself!?

Sometimes I wonder....

.......what is the meaning of life?

 

 

 

My goal has always been to live a life where I can make a difference to people's lives. Not huge, but enough for them to smile and say; "wow Flirty made me smile today" or "Flirty was really thoughtful by doing....."

 

 

 

My life is so filled with work and stress that sometimes I feel that I am missing out & not making enough of a difference & lately I find myself daydreaming about the potential I would have to make a difference I would have if I had more time.....

 

 

 

I would travel more, I would throw more parties (dress up parties), work more on our event company (my true passion) and I would spend more time with my family & friends.

 

 

 

There is so much to experience in life & yet I find that most of these hours are spent getting shouted at by my boss because he is in "one of those moods", working towards a deadline or doing housework & then thanks to my mystery ailment, needing to sleep all the time.

 

 

 

My short term goals for this year are:

 

Pick really awesome (not necessarily) expensive presents for my friends & family


Appreciate them


Appreciate QT & how lucky I am to have him in my life


Go on more short weekend breaks


Do more fun activities (Canopy tours etc)


Say no to an outing, event etc when I know I cannot afford to go instead of putting myself further in debt


Spend more lazy days in PJS watching dvds


Updating my blogs more


Working more on the Evnt company marketing


Throw a masked dress up party (Casanova the movie style)

 

Let's hope the rest of this year is more smooth and meaningful....

 

In my Absence...

..... so much has happened: I....

1. 
   
   Have missed Blogging so much - but my head has not been clear enough - until today
2. 
   
   Went on holiday to Ballito with QT
3. 
   
   Have almost destroyed my nail by being too stubborn to go to a doctor for a fungal infection (and still refuse to go)
4. 
   
   Have discovered I have Anemia and High Cholesterol, but still haven't discovered what is wrong with me for the reason I actually went to the Doc in the 1st place - it is extremely disheartening. Suspected case of a Virus similiar to Yuppie Flu
5. 
   
   Have effectively re-organised my bag by keeping all meds & girly things in a nifty clear pouch that is easy to take out and find stuff
6. 
   
   have found a stunning Bridesmaid dress for the wedding in June but have to make the decision whether or not to pay in R800
7. 
   
   Have realised I need to get out of debt & pay off my R40 000 credit card / loan debt (making Point 5 harder)
8. 
   
   Am trying to discover a way to ask for a salary raise (to make Point 6 easier)
9. 
   
   Have cut my hair in a much different layered style to what I usually have
10. 
    
    have been feeling very negative about work
11. 
    
    Have made QT & me - OFFICIAL
12. 
    
    Have discovered that being in a relationship with QT is so much more fulfilling than I ever imagined
13. 
    
    have lost 4kgs since January - but realised I have alot more still to lose to get rid of Gloria
14. 
    
    Have realised how much I hate doing my on housework
15. 
    
    attended a course that was highly beneficial to my work
16. 
    
    discovered Purple Nail polish and it's all I want to wear
17. 
    
    realised that QT is 1 of the true Gems out there
18. 
    
    have discovered that Sleeping with a friend can complicate things - ever if it is not from your side
19. 
    
    have realised that some people have much harder lives than you realise yet they survive it and are a reason to be inspired
20. 
    
    have realised that planning events is fun & so worth it in the end
21. 
    
    am preferring the life of Hermit & feel bad for ignoring my friends, but I just don't have the mental capacity to socialise without having a mental meltdown
22. 
    
    Know that my friends understand & will be there for me - wither to visit my padded cell or to celebrate with me
23. 
    
    need to get my life back - my boss & work colleagues calling me after hours and on weekends is unacceptable
24. doscovered that my "secret blog" is not so secret anymore - MC & QT have discovered it!
25. have to decide whether or not to continue with this blog or start a NEW secret blog
26. 
    
    need more sleep
27. 
    
    love my kitty cats so much
28. 
    
    am hanging on to my sanity by a thin thin thread.....