Having Children

A topic I have given a lot of thought to recently. Especially after my nephew was born 2 years ago.

I have been waiting for my broodiness to settle in and I am surprised to discover that it hasn’t.

Growing up, society has conditioned us to believe that our purpose in life is to become successful in a chosen career and to get married and have children.

There is not much said about having a job that you love regardless of the lack of status and about getting married and having children.

My friend’s mother is constantly on at her about the 2 of us finding a husband and settling down. We tell her that we are going on holiday and her response is: “That sounds lovely, but you should be out there looking for a man”

I would love to get married to the person who I feel is right for me, I will never settle in order to avoid being a spinster.

Since my nephew was born, I have realised 2 things:

1. I don’t have to feel guilty for depriving my parents of being grandparents. They are amazing with Noah and I love watching how my mom especially has changed in her strictness between being a parent and a grandparent.
2. I have a child in my life. I enjoy being the awesome aunt who gets to blow bubbles with him and tickle him to death and kick the ball outside with him. I will always be in his life as he grows up.

I am also not totally ruling out the possibility of perhaps changing my mind about having children. I have however decided that should I want children, they must come naturally.

I have watched 1 too many times the stress that fertility treatment adds to a relationship – regardless of how strong that relationship is – and I will not subject myself to that.

IVF and AI do not deliver 100% results and the added stress is detrimental to all the treatments. I believe that everything happens for a reason and this is 1 of those situations where I believe that it will work out the way it should.

And heaven forbid I become 1 of those people who bitch and moan about being pregnant, tired and fat, but post a photo online smiling widely every second day and then after the baby is born complain that I miss my “pregnancy glow”

You have my permission to show me this blog post and then bitch slap me.

And I promise never to whip it out in your presence and breastfeed the baby. EVER.

Cutest nephew in the world

Noah is growing up so fast and has become the cutest little boy ever.

He loves bubbles and he loves hugging the animals when his parents are not looking (he apparently has an allergy, but I'll get him over that in no time!)

He loves to play ball and he loves it when I take photos of him - as long as I let him see them afterwards. When he asks for something he says "Pleeeeeeease!" (Perhaps you had to be there?)

Here were some of me letting him throw grass all over himself and giggling along with him - I know, I am the best Aunty in the world!

My nephew - Noah

I became an Aunty yesterday

I always say people are biased towards their own babies and family - but considering he is only a couple of minutes old - I reckon he is kinda cute!

I am not a baby person at all - but I will admit to being a bit excited now that he is suddenly here.

Will see him for the first time on Sunday.

iRandom

Some more random things about me:

1. I cannot cut straight - tried it again today - even with lines, I manage to mess it up
2. I am not a huge ice cream fan - unless it is Cornetto with strawberries
3. I love a good piece of chocolate cake, but my favourite is vanilla with butter icing
4. I am obsessed with hot gorgeous men - yes I am a pervert. Ian Somerhalder - please marry me?? I am willing to have babies if they look like you!!
5. Speaking of babies - my nephew has to come early due to his heart rate being too high - I will be an Aunty on Tuesday.... perhaps some baby instinct buried deep inside me will come out.
6. I am still not sure if I really like Twitter - the only reason I am on it is to stalk follow my future husband Ian Somerhalder                                            
7. I  like walking around in various states of undress - something I can look forward to continue doing now that I am going to be living on my own again
8. I love my Blackberry

Good/Bad News day

The rollercoaster ride continues!

Yesterday I met up with my friend Bebe.

Bebe is a friend who used to know everything about me - we worked together for years but we dont see each other as much since we dont work together anymore.

But we have the type of friendship that when we get together we pick up where we left off and chat for HOURS. (Usually in the parking lot. The colder the weather - the longer the chat)

She filled me in on her happenings which included R4000 being stolen from her practice as well as about 4 or 5 glasses frames.

Tee then called to tell me that she just got home to find her place ransacked. Her burglar bars had been cut and the door broken down.

Her belongings are all gone; cute pink Sony dvd player, TV, all her cds and DVDS (bye bye Twilight and New Moon) her prized coffee machine that cost her a fortune as well as her electric toothbrush!! 

That is just gross!

And for the icing on the cake:

My brother's girlfriend is pregnant!! EEEKKKKK!!!!

My brother is 28 and just recently moved in with his girlfriend - and now we hear the news.

I am still in a state of shock.... they can barely afford to look after themselves let alone a baby!

ANd I can see my parents trying to help them out and making things worse for them. Oh Boy!

I am going to be an Aunty... oh boy!