Hit the Ground Running

I knew that 2013 easy not going to be any quieter than last year, but boy have I sped into it like the bus without brakes in Speed (am I giving my true age away? )

January galloped past at an amazing rate and my year ahead looks to be promising much excitement.

Highlights from January:
Work sales conference. Resulting in a back and neck spasm, but I got to visit the chiropractor for a "back massage" (how's that for a positive spin in things- haha! :-)

Was invited to my first Burger Night over at Claudz and Richy.

Met 2 new people. One guy with a very dry sense of humour and fast wit- I liked him instantly.

Beginning of Feb:
Began planning in ernest for my friends baby shower in March and managed to buy all the favours and get them made!

Had my folks over for a visit, subjected them enjoyed watching some One Direction videos with them. Cooked 2 dishes all by myself- a chicken pie and Bread and Butter pudding. Yum!

Here is what my calendar still holds:

Feb: another foray into the world of speed dating.
A Long weekend to the Pilansberg mountains.
Friends birthday party
Hosting Bookclub
My nephews second birthday

March: week away at Mount Sheba near Hazyview. A holiday we have spoken about for ages.
Friends baby shower
Moving into my new place

April: a trip to Japan! And I am going in springtime which means I get to see the beautiful cherry blossoms.

I'll be away an awful lot which means my work will pile up, but I've already proven last year that no matter if you work until 10pm, the work is never done.

I said 2013 was going to be about me, and that's what I'm going to do!

 

A pissed off ex-friend

2013 is a year for me to get my life back.
That means eradicating negative people, negative habits and making space for my soul to breathe.

For a while now I have had someone in my life who has been making me question the reason that they are in my life.
Do they add value to my life / Do I add value to theirs?
The answer for both questions should be a 50/50 YES. if not, the relationship needs some honest evaluation.

After the evaluation, I found that I was getting nothing from a particular relationship.
They threw me aside when something better came along.
I was not invited over, but I was always the listening ear to listen to the problems. Thy never turned up to any parties/events/coffee dates because they always had something better to do. When they did attend, they left early... every. single. time.

They thrive on attention and drama and it was a pattern we had not noticed before until we really took a step back and looked back at the history. The reason for their problems became clear when you looked at the recurring pattern.

We all stopped giving them the attention in the hopes that it would break the cycle, because to address the problem would injure their pride and give them reason to enjoy another past-time of theirs - Playing the Victim  
In an attempt to reach out, we received a message of apology. Which would have been fine, had the message not then changed tones to become another Woe is Me diatribe.

I have a rule that I am never false, I never say things I do not mean. If I say you look pretty, I mean it. If I think your baby is uglier than a monkeys backside, I don't say the opposite, I smile politely and say, "sweet baby"

If I am angry with you and you ask me, I will tell you I am.
I will never post statuses on Facebook in the hopes that you will see them and know that they were aimed at you. I am not 12 years old and I wouldn't indirectly say something aimed at you when I could actually do it directly and sort it out.

I am loyal to the people in my life & will tolerate a lot and forgive them for a lot, until they:

1. Betray my Trust
2. Accuse me of something I did not do

Once they have done that - my reaction is quick and definite. They will no longer be a part of my life.
I will not forget. I may forgive over time, but that will never mend our relationship back to how it once was.

I do tolerate a lot, which is unlike me considering I am an impatient person. I am there to help my friends when I can, but when they constantly make immature, selfish decisions, I cannot be there to always support them. Not when I want to give them a piece of my mind but know it is useless if I do.
I cannot listen to how they are "severely" or "excrutiatingly" or 'desperately" everything. (they have a good grasp of those verbs, did they find them in the Dictionary for Drama Queens?)

I realise that this is probably not always the best way to be, but it is who I am.
I do not forgive quickly and the anger of the betrayal / accusation takes a long time to dissipate. Until that process is complete, it is best not to be in life where I might say something rash.

After making the decision to finally eliminate that person from my life, I could feel the weight lifting off my shoulders.
I wish I had done it a long time ago. But hindsight is 20/20 vision isn't it?

Glee - Naked

Did somebody say "naked?"

Coming off my last post about Glee, lookiee what the Glee producers so kindly have in store for us:

My latest Obsession - Glee

… and more specifically Darren Criss

My friend convinced me to watch Glee and I swear, I cannot believe I never wanted to watch it before.

I have been missing out!

I have always loved music, but I am not a fan of musicals where the cast randomly break out into song – I had the expectation that Glee was exactly that.

But they only sing to express things that are happening in their lives – and the music choices are great!

Now here is even more incentive to watch Glee – Darren Criss.

His first performance was Teenage Dream by Katy Perry and it is still my favourite Glee song of all time. He plays a gay guy in Glee, but in reality he is straight (and as preppy as he is in Glee, you cannot help but notice his sparkly eyes and long eyelashes)

Here are some pics from his shoot for People Magazine’s Sexiest Men – enjoy!

Christmas 2012 recap

I realise that you are all most probably in the full swing of 2013, so please forgive me for my veeeeerrrryyyy late Christmas holiday recap post!

My December holidays weren't exactly as I had planned them, but I had the 2 weeks off from work, which was the most important for me.

I worked until 21 December and had the weekend to put up my Christmas tree & inject some Christmas spirit into my house.

I did some shopping for Christmas presents and ended up spoiling myself - thank goodness for Edgars accounts - and bought myself a new Gemini nomination link (more to follow on my Nomination bracelet soon) and a lovely across-shoulder bag to go out with when I don't need my 10kg artillary regular handbag.

Christmas was really enjoyable for us because my nephew is almost 2 years old and now able to enjoy the Christmas presents so much more.

He is a very well-behaved child and has a very sweet nature - I am so proud of my brother and sister in law, they are doing a great job with him.

Mom says that when he visits them, Noah sees my photo in a frame and carries it around with him - BLESS!

I surprised myself when I actively sought him out to play with him and I enjoy the time with him because he appeals to my inner-child. I still do not feel the need to become a mother just yet - at 34, I have been told I will feel my biological clock ticking... perhaps the batteries are dead.

After Christmas I was stung by a bee & turned into Princess Fiona/Shrek. It was not pretty and I was princess-down for almost a week. The swelling went past my wrist and I was literally stung in passing, the stinger had not even gone past the top layer of skin in my little finger. Talk about bad luck.....

After I recovered from the sting, I contracted a stomach virus which had me unable to even hold a glass of water down.

To live up to it's reputation of happening in threes, a close friendship of mine came to an end.

Despite all this, I am feeling quite positive for the new year. 

I have my Twenty Wishes list and my new home to look forward to this year. It cannot possibly be a dull year!